If a man leads you to pay... If a man leads you to drive him around...

If a man leads you to pay...

If a man leads you to drive him around...

If a man leads you to plan dates...

Then he is not leading.

He's putting you in the caretaking role. Whether its 10%, of the time, 40% of the time, or 100% of the time.

This is not leadership.

It's not masculinity.

It's boyhood. He's a boy telling his mom what to do for him.

He might be more masculine in other aspects of the relationship, but in this context, he's being a boy.

I'm speaking not only as a coach, but also because this was exactly what I used to do to my wife.

Because I didn't understand my role, and I didn't understand how to be the leader of my marriage.

I thought I was leading, but all I was leading her towards was her own masculinization.

If you are a woman who has experienced or is experiencing this, you must not follow this leadership because you'll be following your man off a polarity cliff.

You must vulnerably communicate what you're experiencing....

To honor your heart, and to inspire him to lead like a man.